5 Ways to Calm the Chaos
Let’s talk about 5 ways to calm the chaos, shall we? The whole world is flipped upside down right now, as I’m sure you’ve noticed! We are on day whatever of our unprecedented quarantine and shit is getting a little chaotic over here. I’m sharing the five ways that I calm my chaos as a mom of 3, especially during these uncertain and stressful times.
This first way to calm the chaos is a biggie and the most important. It’s all about getting real on the expectations you have of yourself and your family during this time. The schedule is all out of whack and life is different on many levels, so we need to re-adjust our expectations! Otherwise, we are setting ourselves and our families up for stress, frustration, and failure. Is it realistic for me to expect my five-year-old daughter to spend hours “studying”? Of course not! Should I expect to be able to work my full 8-hour work-day uninterrupted? Hell no! I don’t know about your kids, but my kids need snacks all day, every day. No lie – my daughter just yelled for a snack two seconds ago.
Add More Joy
Be sure to include having fun into your revised expectations – expect to enjoy yourself more and you will. Find ways in your day-to-day quarantine to add more joy to whatever moment you are living. This could be as simple as turning on your favorite music or allowing yourself to play with your kids, even if you have a lot of other stuff to do. Make it a point to do what you like to do. Call friends and family, dance, paint, go for a walk, organize something – do whatever works for you, boo. If it makes you feel good, do more of it! The better we feel, the better we can handle everything else.
Yes, sanitize everything and wash your hands, but don’t stop there. Protect those good vibes you’ve created by doing more of what you love and limit the things and people that bring you down. This could mean you limit the amount of news you watch or read. It might look like reorganizing your social media accounts to block the Debbie-downers and increase the positive messages by following different people who post uplifting and/or humorous content. Just be sure to take notice of what makes you feel happy or good (do more of that) and what makes you feel anxious or depressed (try to avoid when possible).
Stillness matters now more than ever. When there’s so much going on that’s out of your control in the world and in your family, you can easily become overwhelmed. If you aren’t taking time for yourself, this will quickly wear you down mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Stillness is anything that brings you peace. I know for some it’s prayer and meditation. For others, stillness can be going outside and admiring the sky, a beautiful tree or hearing the birds sing. Whatever stillness looks like for you – do that as often as possible. If you aren’t sure where to begin, check out this free guided meditation that I created to help you connect with your peace during the whirlwind craziness of motherhood.
I know not everyone considers themselves to be “outdoorsy”. I feel you. I’m not saying to pack your backpacks with trail mix and camping supplies and go out hiking for an extended period of time. But there is something powerful that happens when you spend time in nature. You can come back recharged and balanced. Your outside time could be as simple as sitting on a bench at the park or relaxing in your backyard. Fresh air will do you good – give it a try.
These are the top 5 ways to calm the chaos that I have been clinging to for my well-being. I hope they help you to do the same in your corner of the world. Stay well, stay connected and stay home when possible. I’d love to hear from you! What are some of your other tips to keep the calm?
Looking for More?
My book, Embrace the Beautiful Chaos of Motherhood: The Secret of Staying True to Yourself will launch in a few short weeks! It should be up by mid-April 2020, so go to Amazon and search for it there or check my website for more info. It will be available as an e-book, audiobook and in print. I can’t wait to share it with you.